The Angels remind us that love and forgiveness are places of power, not weakness. For we can hold these in our hearts, and be these for the world, while still holding firm to our strong ideals and boundaries, free from the weight of carrying around the burden of old hurts and anger.
It’s almost time! We’re in the last week before Christmas, with the last mad rush of shopping and baking and parties upon us.
Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, it’s hard to escape the hectic nature of the season. Besides the hustle and bustle of holiday activity, world events keep many of us feeling stressed, bewildered, and hopeless. It’s safe to say the energy this year is different than in years past.
How do we cope? Especially in the face of events over which we have no control?
This has been a personal struggle of mine for years. The holidays have often been less fun as they could be for me because of the stress they bring with them. I usually want to simply curl up under the covers and hide all month. However, my struggles a few years ago with adrenal fatigue and the debilitating symptoms that accompanied it forced me to seek more balance in all areas of my life: diet, physical activity, sleep, time management, and especially mindset. It’s a daily challenge to find balance in all these areas (and admittedly, I still struggle), but I NEVER want to feel that bad again.
As I said, I’m not perfect, but over the years I’ve cultivated some practices that have helped me keep my energy more balanced and my stress low. I share these tips below in hopes they’ll help you too, not only to get through the holidays, but to actually ENJOY them.
Choose not to stress. Yes, this is easier said than done. However, when you recognize that stress is based primarily on your perception, rather than the situation or the other person’s behavior, it helps you feel a whole lot less controlled by outside influences. Breathe deep and find the peace that exists inside (I promise it’s in there).
Banish guilt. ‘Tis the season of overindulgence. Don’t beat yourself up over the past or things that can’t be changed. We make mistake and poor judgements on a daily basis. Life is too short to carry around that much guilt. Do the best you can and do better tomorrow. That’s all you can ever ask of yourself (or anyone else).
Learn to say no. It really is ok if you don’t go to every party or get a gift for every person you know. We all have limits and boundaries and we need to honor those. Saying no can be empowering.
Practice trust and forgiveness.When you allow yourself to let go of some of those feelings of anger, sadness, and disappointment that pile onto your heart from the daily injustices we all encounter, it can be incredibly powerful. It doesn’t require letting anyone off the hook for doing something terrible. Rather, choosing not to carry a few heavy things offers a way to lighten your energetic load and allows you to feel brighter & more joyful.
Reframe. When you choose to see the positives aspects of all situations, you’ll soon you’ll start seeing the world differently without trying! Can’t see the positive? Create one! Use your imagination to create a positive perception, even if it’s only in your own mind. For example: “I didn’t get invited to the party. I’m mad and disappointed.” Consider instead, “I didn’t get invited to the party. I’m sure they just wanted a small guest list. They’re my friends and I know they care about me. ” Work with this process until it becomes natural.
Have faith.Tap into your personal beliefs, whatever they are. Trust that everything is right, in this moment, just as it is.
Do you have any tips or practices that help you through your holidays or other stressful times? Reply to this email or head over to my Facebook group and join the conversation!
The Angels remind us to give generously and forgive easily. In this world, it’s too easy to get sidetracked by others’ wrongdoings and forget that we are also imperfect. A small amount of compassion for self and others goes a long way.
Do you see the signs around you?
Do you catch the subtleties
of human form and language,
the gestures that, though invisible,
may signify the change that is to come?
Do you feel it in your bones,
like an ache that cannot be quenched
with all the fire in the universe,
yet softens with only love’s touch?
Do you run in quiet fields
with tall grass, listening to the whisper
as each blade glides against another
as your feet swish in the underbrush
stepping to the time of nature’s rhythm?
Do you laugh as if a child,
with the freedom and grace that is confidence
in endless tomorrows
and eternal play?
Do you gather all the signs,
hold them close to your body
in the place where love enters you,
shout forgiveness and gratitude
and fiery tears into the blackened sky,
counting every blessing, every gift,
every challenge that brought you to your knees,
raise hands to tomorrow,
whatever that may be,
whatever you may become?
In the dim light
the troubled mind
searching for an anchor
an open port
a place to call home
to row into shore
with the locals
learn the customs
The voices they call
in the distance
from the darkest recesses
they make their presence known
seek a way to enter
take up residence
bring the peace
long to become One
In oneness we unite
cleanse the debris
from even the darkest soul
bring the night from the shadows
into pure white light
an end to suffering
connection to the One
In the dawning of time
man was no speck of dust,
not even a glimmer in Divine’s eye,
until life was breathed into light
and awareness into cellular dust,
fledgling gods dispatched to distant worlds
to wear foreign masks,
engage in sacrilegious battles
for wholeness and peace,
to conquer universes,
to love and give,
receive and forgive,
wage wars with self
and tear down walls of difference ,
fuel the sting of creation sorrow,
create that which is loved most,
send it soaring into freedom,
not knowing how or when it may return,
to fulfill the fate of immortal time
Ebbing and flowing,
cleansing and nourishing,
the tiniest fish that swim
in your veins, to the largest whales
of your soul, rely on the life-giving
water from within, nourished by the sun through day,
directed by the tides at night, touched by
the hand of God and bestowed the power
to create and sustain life, to raise up
great storms and inspire the heart of man,
to love with great fury and tear down walls
built long ago by another people’s war
The water that makes you
is ordained with holy wings,
harness the power of the great ocean inside,
use it not for devastation of the unruly and
sinful parts, but as a sacred trough from which
all may drink and find the blessings of life