The Angels remind us that each day of this big life we have the opportunity to share something…about ourselves, our knowledge, our hopes for the future. We have the opportunity to create an opening for others to feel comfortable to do the same. It just takes a few people creating safe spaces for others to create the ripple effect of connection the world so desperately needs.
Yet this kind of freedom is deceiving. It feels free—until it comes crashing down without warning. And then there is no plan for dealing with it effectively. The result is usually to avoid or ignore, to move forward on the path that seems to come with the least amount of pain.
Like when my mother was diagnosed with cancer for a second time—a liver metastasis from her colon cancer a few years earlier. I was getting ready to graduate college and start graduate school. My adult life was ready to begin, and yet I found myself moving back home. I didn’t have a plan for that.
And then two years later, when the cancer came back again. And two years after that, when it took over her body. At 27 and just four years into a young marriage, there was no plan for dealing with that either.
The ups and downs of this haphazard path take a toll over time. For me, it resulted in a debilitating case of adrenal fatigue, which forced me to slow to a crawl.
I’ve never gotten fully back up to speed. I doubt I ever will. That’s how incapacitating a lack of awareness can be.
In that forced slowing down, however, I realized I had to find a different way, because what I had been doing clearly wasn’t working. So I spent years studying and practicing holistic nutrition, mindfulness, and self-healing. I attended the “Woman Within” weekend training and joined a local empowerment circle. I started a regularly writing practice.
Slowly, a shift began to happen. New insights began to emerge. A plan began to form.
The magnitude of these events – or perhaps it’s just the mindset I’m in these days –motivates me to stop and think deeply about my part in these global events.
How do they affect me and those I love? What could have I have done differently? What could I do going forward to have even the slightest effect?
I think about A Spirit Led Life and the impact it already has on my clients, students, and readers. I know because you tell me, and it means so much to me! I also think about my family and friends, my place of work, my online connections near and far, and even the companion animals that share this life with me. We all impact each other in big and small ways.
It starts with us. We can’t focus globally without also focusing locally. These bigger world events are simply a big-picture reflection of the unrest and turmoil we carry in our hearts. We the people are unbalanced, and therefore so is the world. We see it every day.
So what is the answer?
I’m not certain there is one single answer. Nevertheless, one phrase keeps coming to mind when I consider my focus for the coming year: LOVE FULL OUT.
“The world doesn’t want to be saved. It wants to be Loved.
That’s how we save it.”
Yet, I know from practicing energy work that the world is in desperate need of love. Not romantic or familial love, but deep soul connection. People are so parched that when I sit in meditation and send out the energy of love to all people, it feels like a massive sponge, soaking it all up. People can’t get enough.
Our daily lives don’t exactly set us up for success in this regard. We are busy, harried, disconnected, rushing from one thing to the next. Most days are one big checklist of activities. We even schedule times for intimacy and connection. Or worse – we don’t.
We have to take time to refocus our energies. That’s the message I’m getting. We can’t keep on like this. Our world can’t keep on like this. Each of us can play a small role, make small changes toward a greater good. Each of us can LOVE FULL OUT.
What does loving full out look like? Well, I have a few ideas.
Loving full out means we are here in the moment. Right now. Wholly and exclusively with the person or people we love. Giving them our full attention in that moment. Nothing else. No one else. Being present means losing the distractions. It’s a tough sell because we are a distracted people. For the sake of those who need us, and for ourselves, we need to put down the devices, the chores, the activities, and simply be aware, be alive, and be present.
We can’t be fully loving when we’re full of judgments or carry resentments and anger from past experiences. Loving full out means we stay curious about the world around us, and about our role in it. We don’t get caught in the drama and the fear and the political or social entanglements that cause division. Instead, we stay open to what drives other people, even if we don’t agree with them. We look for the areas of similarity instead of focusing on differences. And we do the work to get past all the old, painful stuff that still binds us to the past.
BE OPEN TO RECEIVE
This is tough for many of us because receiving involves vulnerability. And we’ve been hurt. We’ve been judged. We’ve learned that the world isn’t safe. And the world sure doesn’t look safe in many ways right now. That’s why the worlds needs us to be open and to love full out right now. We can give, give, give all day long and we will only get exhausted. We need to be able to receive as well. And not only to receive but to discern what is healthy and needed and what can be turned away. We don’t have to receive everything that comes at us, just as we don’t need to give our whole selves away. We need a balance. The world needs us to balance. The world needs our giving AND our receiving, as well as our conscious choice to break up the blocks that keep us from receiving all the love and goodness available for us too.
This new year is likely to be tough in many ways, and yet it has so much potential, especially if we all make the commitment to LOVE FULL OUT – our loved ones, our enemies, our politicians, our world leaders, our animals, our earth, ourselves. Loving full out means embracing it all. We can’t pick and choose who and what gets our full-out love. It’s a package deal. And it only serves to benefit us all.
Are you ready for the challenge? Ask yourself:
Where in my relationships can I love full out?
Where do I need more work in letting past hurts go?
How can I allow myself to be more vulnerable?
How can I be more present in my own life and the lives of those around me?
Where can I set my judgments aside and be more curious about others’ lives, beliefs, and choices?
In what other ways can I love full out?
These are just a few ways to love full out. I know you have more ideas to share. And I want to hear them! Let’s stay connected this year and support each other in staying committed to loving full out, in all aspects of our lives (because we can’t do it in just one or two areas of life anyway!).
I invite you to join me in my Facebook group, Heal Yourself, Heal the World, to attend classes and programs coming this year (look for announcements!), and to become a private client if that calls to you. Whatever we can do together to keep growing, keep learning, and keep LOVING FULL OUT!
Much love, light, and healing for a happy 2017!